HAIL!!! THUNDERSTORMS!!! TORNADO WARNINGS!!! (Okay, we haven't had the tornado warning...yet)
Here's pictures of the first round of pea sized hail we had on our deck around 6:15pm Central time.
Round 2...again, pea sized hail around 8:25pm Central time. This time on the front walk.
Jacob holding one of the pieces of hail.
And we're not quite done yet. We've had Round 3 of hail but I didn't get pictures. It's been a while since I've seen hail that completely covers the street. Crazy! Boy, I hope Sue stopped ahead of this!
But I haven't posted in a while and need to post something.
Ugh. I've got a nasty cold. I get it every year when the seasons change. Hopefully, it won't turn into a sinus infection like it did in the fall. That sucked.
Jacob and I are hooked on the computer game, Fish Tycoon. We've built our business up to two tanks and are working on building an inventory. We've discovered that the more unusual fish don't seem to thrive and we can't figure out why. I love the fact that you can walk away from it for a while and have baby fish and when you come back, they're all grown up. It's so addictive.
I was reading an article in a magazine the other day about the Mommy Wars. For those of you who don't know what I'm talking about, it's the battle between Stay At Home Moms and Working Moms. I'm so tired of the guilt trips on both sides. Why do we need to put each other down for our choices?
I've been on both sides and can say that each CHOICE is challenging. I emphasized the word, choice, because ultimately, that's what it is.
I know that there are some situations where staying at home is not an option. Some Moms have to work for their families to survive. I am choosing not to focus on this group because they don't have the choice. They have to work. So, let's just assume that everyone has a choice to make.
Working Moms
There are a lot of women out there who like having the challenges that a work environment provides. They like that they are showing their daughters that they can "have it all." You know what? Good for them! They've made the choice to work and that's great for them!
I've been there. After Jacob was born, I made the choice to go back to work. I never really thought about staying home. Jacob could come to work with me and I could look in on him anytime that I wanted. I felt that it was the perfect situation.
There were more than a few people who tried to convince me that I was, in essence, destroying my family. Why would I want someone else to raise my kid when I didn't have to work. They had made the choice to stay home and felt that I was making the wrong choice to continue to work. Not only that, but I was being selfish. It was selfish of me to want to challenge myself by working.
I was filled with tremendous guilt in these situations. Why? Because I had made a choice that I felt was best for me and my family and I hadn't made the same choice they had? I enjoyed being able to talk to adults on a daily basis. I enjoyed the friendships that came from working. I enjoyed my job. Period.
After Daniel was born, everything seemed to change. Going to work was hard. The kids were always on my mind. I couldn't see Jacob as much as I used to because he was older and he'd cry when I left the room. I was exhausted and it became too difficult to "do it all," and the kids weren't getting the best of me anymore, and neither was my class. So, at the end of the school year, I quit.
Stay At Home Moms
Against popular belief, staying at home to raise your kids is a full time job. 24/7. No days off. You are always on call and it doesn't matter how tired or sick you are, you have to deal. Many women make considerable financial sacrifices for what they feel is the best choice for their families.
Again, I've gotten the guilt trips from well meaning working moms who tell me that I've lost myself in my kids. Don't I want to better myself and be a role model for my kids? I can be strong and successful by working!
For me, knowing that I'm not going to have to scurry around, call in, leave in the middle of the day, whatever, if there's a snow day, if they are sick, or if one of the kids need to come home early from school is comforting. I like being available if one of the kids needs me. I like picking up the kids at the end of the school day and being able to get the exciting news of their day. I like being able to console them if they've had a bad day.
Don't get me wrong, making friends is a lot harder now. I definitely have to make a bigger effort to find activities for myself and the kids. It can definitely be isolating, but for me, right now, it's more than worth it.
Back to Work? Mike and I have discussed the option of my going back to work when Hannah's in school. I'm faced with the question of whether I really want to. I really like being at home. Call me old fashioned, but I like being able to make home made meals for my family every night. I like being around, and I know Mike likes me being around.
Does that make me lazy? I don't know. What I do know is taking care of my family is the most important job of all. Right now, I need to stay home to do that. I don't think that I can do it and work at the same time. At least not right now.
Bottom Line
Working or staying at home is a CHOICE. You have to do what's best for you and your family. Do you work? Do you stay home? Either way, good for you! But I'm not going to let anyone tell me that I'm blowing my choice. If I ultimately choose to continue to stay at home or if I choose to go back to work, it'll be whatever is in the best interests of me and my family.
Why can't we all support the decisions and choices we make for our families without all of the guilt trips? Why does it have to be all or nothing?
You knew it was coming so, in the words of Jacob, quit complaining! (posts in bold are favorites)
First, a recap of the episode...Meredith's still dead. Her body temp's rising but she's still technically dead. *Addison's paged to her Jane Doe. She walks out and gives an update to Derek and then to the interns. Cristina can't deal with it, so she leaves. Addison continues on to her patient and Alex follows. *Denny and Dylan are fighting about whether Meredith's freaking out or not. She tells them that if she's dead, they are not the people she'd like to see...up pops Doc the dog. (yay Doc!) *Cristina is seen shopping mindlessly in the Dollar Store. *Bailey hands George and Izzy off to Callie to put them to work instead of waiting around. Izzy gets mad. *Derek sits in the family waiting room. Talks to a man with a wife who was hit by a car on the ferry. *Meredith is confronted by several patients who were influential to her...Bonnie (the girl who was stuck on the pole in Into You Like a Train) and Nurse Fallon (her mother's scrub nurse who died of liver cancer in season 1.) *Izzy and Callie get into a fight about George. I agreed with Callie until she basically told Izzy that she needs to hold onto all of the friends she has because they are dropping like flies. *Derek visits Ellis. She wakes up and tells Derek she wants water. He gets it for her and begins stroking her hair. He then proceeds to freak out on her..."you broke her! You told her she was ordinary! Every good thing she's ever done has been in spite of you!" Addison breaks it up...reminding Derek that Ellis is a sick woman who has no clue what's going on (click below to see clip)
*Derek falls apart in the hallway...telling Addison that should have seen the signs and that it's his fault. Addison asks Derek if he thinks she did it on purpose. He said that Merideth can swim...that she's a good swimmer. *Cristina's getting drunk at Joe's and is showing him her stuff that she got at the Dollar Store. (Favorite line..."it's tiny, it's got cat like creatures on it, but it's a chair! You can get furniture for 99 cents! That's America, baby!" Joe says, "That's Taiwan." I also loved, "I'm dealing so shutup and look at my crap!") *Meredith and Denny have a heart to heart about how this will break everyone if she stays dead. Reveals an important fact about Cristina that we didn't know before - she watched her father die after a car accident when she was 9. Meredith admits to Denny that she didn't fight to stay above water...that she gave up because it was easier. *Ellis codes. Derek and staff rush in to try to bring her back...she shows up in the afterlife with Mer. *Burke finds Cristina in the bar and tells her that she'll regret it if she doesn't say goodbye to Mer. He's paged to do a bypass on Mer. *George and Izzy fight about Callie (George is finally getting a backbone!) *Everyone in the trauma room with Mer is basically giving up when Cristina walks in and tells everyone to try again. They agree to one more round of drugs *Denny pushes Mer to confront her mother. Ellis hugs Mer and tells her that she is anything but ordinary. Mer runs back to "the light" *Everyone in the trauma room waits to see if there's heart activity when there's a bloop on the screen. And then another...her heart's beating again.
*Addison comes in and asks if Mer's alive. Bailey says yes. Addison asks about brain damage. Bailey says she doesn't know yet. Addi then asks if Derek's been paged. Bailey says no...she's giving "her" (Cristina) some time. Cristina hasn't moved from the end of the bed. (personally, I think Addison was jealous and mad that Mer lived) *Mer makes a noise which makes Cristina freak out a little. She's begging Mer to make a word...Mer simply says "ouch." Cristina then goes on to tell her that she and Burke are getting married because "you are the only person I wanted to tell." See the interns and Bailey watching Cristina talk to Mer, relieved that she is alive. *Derek leaning in Mer's doorway. She wakes up and sees him. He goes to tell her that her mother is dead when she beats him to it. He looks shocked. *Jealous Addison watching the interaction between Mer and Der when Mark walks up. Addison tells Mark that she and Derek never had that. Mark tells her that he felt that way about Addison. They decide that if Mark can give up women (MANWHORE! LOL!) for 60 days, she'll give their relationship another shot. *Izzy walking out of the hospital when she suddenly stops. Camera turns to see Denny touching her shoulder. (she can't see him but she can feel him) She continues to walk, as does Denny
I skipped a few story lines but I'm not a huge fan of Alex, so I really don't care about the Jane Doe.
I will agree that the episode was a stretch, but if I wanted reality, I'd watch Discover Health (I love that channel, btw). So, yay! Meredith's alive! And Dad, her mother did not kick her out of Heaven!!! LOL!
I tried. Really I did. I was being all good about Lent beginning. I even made Tuna Casserole for dinner. I got the good tuna that's packed in olive oil (way tasty...Mike said it was "meatier") and was trying to make it really tasty (not that tuna casserole's not tasty, but it's not the meat fest I had been planning LOL!). So, I put it all together, put it in the oven and then made a horrible realization. I used cream of chicken soup instead of cream of mushroom soup. Ugh. Here I was, trying to do good and go meatless and I ended up ruining the whole thing with one can of soup. Mike called to tell me he was on his way home and I told him the story. He didn't get it. He says, "cream of chicken soup in the tuna casserole? Umm okay." I told him that it's what I usually use in the casserole. He says, "really?" LOL! I figured God would see the effort and would be understanding, so I ate the casserole. This got me and Mike into a discussion about funny things that have happened before...the best story was this one...
We decide to take a weekend trip to Indiana. It was a horrible trip and we were tired, exhausted and hungry. In the evening, Mike tried to support me by going out of his way to get me tea since I had given up soda for Lent. He figured that I must be hungry, too, so he gets me a cheeseburger as well. He brings it back and I don't think I've eaten something so quickly. To hear Mike tell the story, I was actually licking the paper it was wrapped in because it was so good. LOL! Just for the record, I wasn't, but it was a very tasty cheeseburger. After eating and sitting back to enjoy the tea, I made the realization that it was Friday. Nice. So, Mike, in his effort to help me stick to Lent, had also helped me break it! We laugh regularly about this story.
After dinner, I told Mike a story about what happened when I took the kids to school. His immediate response was, "you have to blog that!" So, here it is...
I went to take the kids to school yesterday morning. We left a little earlier than normal since it tends to get really busy on the first day back after a break. Anyway, I pull up into the line and I see that there are people going around a couple of cars. Making the realization that the cars are parked and are not in the carpool line, I go around as well. I pull into the lot and wait in line. And wait. And wait. I look at Jacob and say, "boy, this line is not moving today!" Just then, there's a knock on the window. I roll it down and see the crossing guard who informs me I'm sitting behind another row of parked cars. Nice. I felt so stupid. Jacob looks at me and says, "are we going to be late now?" I tell him no and try desperately to get out of there as quickly as possible.
This morning, I was getting the pot roast ready to put into the crock pot. Hannah comes in and asks what I'm doing. I tell her that I'm making a roast for dinner. She says, "I hate pot roast!" Me: But Hannah, it's a lot like snake. (she calls steak, snake) Hannah: I love snake! You're making snake? Me: No, I'm making pot roast, but it's similar to snake. Hannah: (again) I hate pot roast! I want snake! Me: How do you know you don't like it until you try it? Do you remember eating pot roast before? (we actually eat it quite often) Hannah: No! (this was more like NOoooooooooOOO...very sing-song) Jacob: Hannah, you eat pot roast all of the time! You love it now quit complaining.
Okay, so I've heard through the grapevine that Kate Walsh (she plays Dr. Addison Montgomery...Derek's ex-wife) is getting a Grey's spin-off show. I don't exactly know how I feel about that. I think they're looking to thin the cast out a bit (it has gotten rather huge...Meredith, Cristina, Izzy, George, Alex, Derek, Burke, Bailey, Webber, Addison, Mark, Callie...and you can't forget recurring characters Olivia, Ellis, Addelle, Thatcher & family, Tyler, Sydney, Dr. Hahn). I wonder if she'd take Eric Dane (Dr. Mark Sloane) with her. Hmmm...
Anyway, only one more day until the big trilogy conclusion. Here's a sneak peek at tomorrow's episode! (It wouldn't let me embed)
Today, Lent begins. I guess I should have put more thought into it, because I haven't given anything up and I haven't really even thought about what to give up this year. I also wasted two meatless meals (okay, so not really wasted, but you know what I mean) on Monday and Tuesday. I don't have a lot in my repertoire...so we may be having tuna casserole instead of the bacon and sausage with the breakfast dinner I was planning. Mike has a lot more dedication than I do...when Judaism says fast...they really mean it...no food, no drink, no shower. I can eat (and drink) a little and still be considered fasting. I need to get my act together.
On a completely unrelated note...is it possible to get shingles from kids who've just had a chicken pox booster? Yesterday morning, I thought it was a contact rash, but as it's spreading, I'm realizing it's shingles. (It looks just like the picture shown here except mine is under my arm, not on my neck) Now, most of you know that I struggled with shingles in college. I'd get them twice a year...always around finals. You've got to love stress-induced illnesses. But I haven't had them in almost 9 years. (can you believe I've been out of college for 9 years this May!?!) What's really interesting is that everything says it's unusual to get shingles more than once. According to everthing I've read, only 4% get it multiple times. Nice.The first thing Mike asked is what kind of extra stress do I have going on. Nothing more than normal. I would have thought that if I were going to get them, I would have last fall, but here I am with a case, and it's spreading. :( The only thing I can think of is the kids had their chicken pox booster (I know...I know. Please no vaccine lectures! LOL!) and now I'm a mess. Ugh!!!
Okay, everyone...it's getting to be that season again. In fact, they were talking about this on the news last night and saying it could be possible for Saturday (for us). Is everyone ready for tornado season? Weather radios, flashlights and all that good stuff all ready to go? We need to get a new weather radio (something happened to mine in the move from Iowa to Virginia). I remember, as a kid, I would get all kinds of canned goods in a bag and put it in the basement whenever there was even just a tornado watch. I never thought about a can opener (that's the funniest part). LOL!!!
...the ones who use Grey's to escape their own lives ...the ones who think it would be a sin for Derek & Meredith not to be together ...the ones who cried during the last few intense Izzie & Denny scenes ...the ones who need Cristina's sarcastic, smart-ass comments ...the ones who use Meredith's narration as mental therapy ...the ones who think surgeons can hear you when you scream at the TV ...the ones who wish someone would look at them like McDreamy looks at Meredith ...the ones who get a warm, fuzzy feeling when they hear "Cosy in the Rocket." ...the ones who McName their McLives ...the ones who begin to consider a career in medicine despite their lacking science skills ...the ones who put Grey's above their other obligations ...the ones who quote episodes in their daily lives at random moments ...the ones who refuse to settle for an average joe because they are waiting for their own McMan ...the ones who think the exhausted, overworked look is dead sexy ...the ones who love lavender ...the ones who get really excited and can't stop smiling everytime they see an elevator ...the ones whose blood pressure rises at intense plot moments ...the ones who now think that people "with plans" are scary ...the ones who discribe their mood as "bright and shiny" or "dark and twisty" ...the ones who have actively changed the phrase to "knight-in-shining whatever"
(Taken from the GA message boards - I thought it was funny)
And the kids don't have school. They've actually been really good considering they are usually ready to kill each other by the end of the weekend.
One of the best things about living in VA was the fact that I could go anywhere and get sweet tea. I miss that terribly. Thank goodness Sara taught me how to make it ("if you just add sugar to tea after it's already cold, it's just tea with sugar!" LOL!) because it's one of Jacob's favorite drinks. In the past two weeks, we've gone through gallons of the stuff. And it's just Jacob and me drinking it!
Speaking of attachments to Virginia...Jacob has completely broken my heart! LOL! We were watching the Bracket Busters on ESPN this weekend and had watched Southern Illinois beat Butler and were watching Bradley (GO BRAVES!) beat Virginia Commonwealth. Jacob comes in and starts rooting for Virginia! Booo! I told him that he was grounded and he told me that he'd root for any Virginia team. :( His words were like knives to my heart!
We had Daniel's birthday party this morning. Turns out, we had 100% RSVP rate (first time that's ever happened) and out of all of the kids in Daniel's class, only 2 didn't come. One was sick and one was out of town. We ended up with 16 kids total. Everyone had a great time and I discovered a lot of other moms who've been moved around as well. One of the moms there is from Frederick, MD. Her brother lived in Hagerstown. Small world, huh? Anyway, here are a couple of pictures.
The party table...if you took out Jacob and Hannah, it's almost all of Daniel's kindergarten class!
Today is my little man's birthday. I cannot believe that he is 6. Where has the time gone?
We're having a party for him at Chuck E Cheese's tomorrow. We invited his classmates and we've actually had very few no's. So, we're planning on 15 kids (including our 3) tomorrow for the party. Should be fun!
They're showing the Grey's episode It's The End Of The World tonight on ABC at 8/7c...the episode with Dylan (Kyle Chandler) and the bomb I was telling you about last night. That should help you understand who the other guy with Denny was. It's a two-parter and I don't know when they are showing the second part, but Dylan is in this one, too.
Thanks for calling last night and talking me down! LOL!
Shonda's got a new blog up about last night's episode...Click here to see it.
I just realized this was a cleansing episode!!! Bear with me here. So last week, Izzy said that she doesn't know what she believes in anymore. Here is the big scene in tonight's episode outside Mer's trauma room (yes, I copied it down). Oh, and the title of the next episode is Some Kind of Miracle.
Alex, George and Izzy are outside the double doors watching Derek. Cristina comes running up...
Cristina: Is it Meredith? Alex: Yeah. Cristina: Are you sure? Did you see her? Because it could be anyone Alex grabs Cristina's arm Alex: It's Meredith. Cristina sees George crying Cristina: oh. She sees Derek sitting on the floor outside the door to the trauma room crying...Mark is sitting next to him. Cristina: oh...oh Izzy: She will come through this George: You don't know that. Izzy: She will come through this. George: People die everyday. Izzy: I know people die. People die in front of us every day. But I believe Mer will survive this. I believe...I believe...I believe in the good. I believe it's been a hell of a year and, despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary, we will all be okay. I believe a lot of things. I believe Denny is always with me. I believe that if I eat a tub of butter and no one sees me that calories don't count. And I believe that surgeons who prefer staples over stitches are just lazy. Looks at George And I believe that you are a man that made a terrible mistake marrying Callie. And I believe that because I'm your best friend, I can tell you this and we can be okay. I believe that even though you made this mistake, you will be okay. *Sigh* I believe we survive, George. I believe that believing we survive is what makes us survive. Hugs Cristina She's going to be okay.
Get the tissues ready, 'cause here's the last 7 minutes (I hope they don't screw up the Dylan and Denny thing...I about wet myself when Mer asked if she was dead and Denny said "you're damn right you are")...
Here is the promo for next week. Personally, I think it's a little ridiculous, but, whatever.
Please don't let this turn into something it's not I can only give you everything I've got I can't be as sorry as you think I should But I still love you more than anyone else could All that I keep thinking throughout this whole flight Is it could take my whole damn life to make this right The splintered mast I'm holdin' on won't save me long Because I know fine well that what I did was wrong
The last girl and the last reason To make this last for as long as I could The first kiss and the first time That I felt connected to anything The weight of water the way you taught me To look past everthing I have ever learned The final word in the final sentence You ever uttered to me was love
We have got through so much worse than this before What's so different this time that you can't ignore You say it is much more than just my last mistake And we should spend some time apart For both our sakes
The last girl and the last reason To make this last for as long as I could The first kiss and the first time that I felt connected to anything The weight of water the way you taught me To look past everything I have ever learned The final word in the final sentence You ever uttered to me was love
The last girl and the last reason To make this last for as long as I could The first kiss and the first time that I felt connected to anything The weight of water the way you taught me To look past everything I have ever learned The final word in the final sentence You ever uttered to me was love
And I don't know where to look My words just break and melt Please just save me from this darkness Please just save me from this darkness
And I don't know where to look My words just break and melt Please just save me from this darkness Please just save me from this darkness
According to the news, we got about 6 inches last night, which is a lot more than the 2-4 they were calling for. It's all blowing around so it's really hard to tell just how much is out there. To top it off, there's a lovely layer of sleet under it all, so I'm thinking that I really don't want to go out there. Boy, am I happy that I went grocery shopping yesterday.
As soon as the alarm went off this morning, I turned the TV on to check for school closings. The first channel I came to was Fox and they had a thing at the bottom of the TV, so I waited. There it was...no school...so, after a groggy conversation with Mike, I went back to sleep.
Jacob came in at 8:10 asking why I hadn't woken him up yet. I told him there was no school today and he could either go back to bed or watch cartoons for a few minutes. He mumbled something and closed the door. 8:15 am, Jacob comes back in and asks if I'm sure he doesn't have school. I say yes, I'm sure. He leaves. 8:20 am, Jacob's back again asking how I know. I tell him that I saw the closing on TV. At 8:25, Jacob comes in and asks if the TV could be wrong.
At this point, I figure it's easier to go on the computer and show him from the websites. The first one I come to is our ABC affiliate, since I'm on their e-mail lists for school closings. No e-mail. Hmmm. I go to their website and look at the closings...our school district isn't on there. Now, I'm freaking out on the inside. I look up our Fox affiliate...there's our school district. Interesting. Maybe I'll get answers if I go to the district's website. There in big, bold letters it says NO SCHOOL TODAY. Phew. Jacob's really angry that he doesn't have school today. LOL!
What's sad is they also cancelled MOPS for today. Hannah was sad for a few minutes and then she got over it. She loves MOPS and I feel bad when she can't go.